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Mommy with sore nipples

I had recently posted this in my personal journal, however, was advised to post it here as well.

Tyler has started to grind his 6 teeth (4 top, 2 bottom). He seems to do it the most when he is latched on, and it hurts. My nipples are so sore!!! If I try to unlatch him he screams. If I tell him "No!! That hurts mommy!", he just looks at me with a clueless look. I have tried sitting him down and telling him no, but he seems to be going through this stage of "I can't leave mommy's side for 2 seconds".

I nurse him to sleep for naps and bedtime and we co-sleep, however, when he used to take his naps he would do so in his crib, now he will only sleep if he is being held by me and nursing. As soon as he falls asleep he starts to grind his teeth, when I try to unlatch him he bites down as if to keep the nipple in his mouth at any cost. If by some chance I am able to free myself he instantly wakes up and starts to scream!!

The past few days when I have gone to nurse him I am getting a sharp pain in my right breast. It starts off in the nipple and radiates to my back. The pain does not subside until we are finished nursing and have unlatched.

All of this is causing a bit of a rif in our nursing relationship. I love nursing Tyler, but not when it feels like he is going to saw my nipple off! I also can't stand to see him sit there and scream because I am denying him boobies. I Am also confused to why he has become so attached to me to the point I cant even go to the bathroom without him, or fix a snack with out him. And it isn't just being in sight, he has to be held.

Please help.

THanks!

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isarma
Feb. 4th, 2006 02:23 pm (UTC)
I had a very similar situation. Ours hated the gel, too. Have you tried bottles of chamomile tea, watered down, with honey? This helped him when he teethed.

On the rest of it, the only thing I even found useful with biting was a flick on the cheek. Very light, but just enough for him to associate that it hurts him, too. I was at the end of my rope and I finally stared flicking his cheek and then right away sticking my finger between his gums (on the side of his mouth) and unlatching him so he couldn't bite. Then I'd take the boob away and kiss him. He'd cry and I'd say, "Every time you bite, we have to stop. It hurts mommy." You just have to be consistent about it, but it was done in less than a week once we did that. Also, have you bought lasinoh? It did wonders for my nipples when they hurt and I tried so many other creams.

I also had a little one who wouldn't sleep alone. I'm not usually a fan of the big expensive babystuff, but I'm a huge fan of the swing they have now that lays down and rocks side to side (so you can place kiddo in there without waking) or some of the vibrating seats. That was why. For our little one, it was a whole package. We swaddled him, because it turned out part of what he needed was to feel safe and held. I used an old robe made out of knit cotton, but just something big enough where you can wrap them all up tight so they can't flail their arms and feel snuggled, even when you lay them down. Then when he fell asleep I'd put him in the swing and turn it on. We even got a white noise machine for 20 bucks and turned that on. With all of that together, he slept by himself when I wanted to get up. In time, it became less necessary. I could just lay him on the bed, but he used that old tshirt until he was 3, he loved being snuggled up. He always slept better.
norwegian_wood
Feb. 4th, 2006 03:03 pm (UTC)
you need to take your flicking and bottle advice someplace else, sister. totally innapropriate in this comunity.
foot_foot
Feb. 4th, 2006 03:13 pm (UTC)
iawtc!!!!

...not to mention that you shouldn't be feeding honey to a baby.
ailbhe
Feb. 4th, 2006 03:23 pm (UTC)
It is very dangerous to feed an infant honey, because the honey pasteurisation process CANNOT be done at high enough temperatures to kill the most dangerous bacteria in it. If it was done that high, the honey would be toffee. Honey is inadvisable for children under 2 years, let alone under 1 year.

I also cannot agree that deliberately hurting your infant is a good idea.
isarma
Feb. 4th, 2006 08:47 pm (UTC)
You know, I'm fine with people disagreeing or pointing out problems, but the *type* of reaction really bothered me. I really hope this is not the way you handle other moms. I breastfed my child for 4 years. I'm a success story, so if you responded to *me* that way, I can't even imagine how you'd go about encouraging someone who isn't doing that to do otherwise.

1) My son was almost a year at the time. He had only had breast. Nipple confusion wasn't a problem. He prefered the bottle to the cup and it wasn't instead of nursing, he'd take the tea and then nurse. I know moms who breastfed and worked alot, so they pumped and used bottles...does this mean there's something wrong with them, just because they used a bottle? I was unaware I wasn't supposed to mention the word bottle.
2) I was aware of the dangers with honey and what I was told was to refrigerate it, which I did. We're just talking a small droplet of honey and I was more comfortable with that than plain sugar.
3) I tried the unlatching, for whatever reason, that didn't do it and what I talked about did. I got the idea from talking to other mothers and it's what finally worked.

ailbhe
Feb. 5th, 2006 02:05 am (UTC)
Nonetheless, giving the advice without also pointing out the risks is irresponsible and potentially dangerous. It would be irresponsible of me not to point out the dangers involved. I can't let bad advice slide just because there's no way to say "This is dangerous advice" without making it look like you've given out dangerous advice. Sorry. If you had mentioned the caveats at all, it would not have been necessary.

It's nice to know that refrigeration kills listeria and e.coli though. I never knew that before. Thanks.
zinecure
Feb. 5th, 2006 02:50 pm (UTC)
Refrigeration does not kill e.coli nor does it kill listeria. That is very dangerous misinformation!!
ailbhe
Feb. 5th, 2006 06:46 pm (UTC)
I really need a bigger sarcasm indicator, don't I? Perhaps I can buy one in pink...
zinecure
Feb. 5th, 2006 10:51 pm (UTC)
Woops! I wasn't meaning to post that to you! Haha!!!
norwegian_wood
Feb. 5th, 2006 04:47 pm (UTC)
i responded negatively to hurting your baby and advice about giving anything besides breastmilk in a bottle in this community.

I can't even imagine how you'd go about encouraging someone who isn't doing that to do otherwise.
well, imagine it, because i am quite successful without accepting destructive behaviors.
zinecure
Feb. 5th, 2006 03:12 pm (UTC)
everything that I have read says to never give your baby honey, so I seriously doubt that we will try that.
My husband and I don't believe in flicking our childs cheek. I've heard too many horror stories of flicking getting carried away.
We have a swing but he stopped enjoying it about 2 months ago. Since Tyler has been trying to become mobile the bouncer seats and swings are becoming obsolete. He has alovie that goes everwhere with him and that he sleeps with. He slept fine a few weeks ago, however, has recently become extra clingy.

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